Tommyjournal  archive    October 2004

Sunday  10.31.04

Yesterday evening: L asks me how R+S's baby son is doing. I report that S is breastfeeding and continues to smoke dope. L gets a disappointed look on her face and says she doesn't think this is a good idea. I don't think it is either, and we talk about the pros and cons of discussing this with S (how do you broach a subject like that without triggering a defensive reaction?).

Then I mention that S had said yes when I'd asked if she'd ever tasted her own breast milk. No one in the room is surprised to hear this, no one thinks it's strange to be curious about what human milk tastes like. I say yeah, I would be surprised if S hadn't tasted her own, just as I am skeptical when guys tell me they've never tasted their own cum. B1 tells me he never tasted his own; he says he wouldn't be ashamed to admit it if he had. He says the idea to try it never crossed his mind. B2 seems either repulsed or amazed by the fact that I've brought the subject up and doesn't weigh in with a report on whether or not he'd ever tasted his.

This is a room of straight people I'm having this talk with. Maybe my perspective as a gay man is vastly different. Maybe I'm wrong, but I imagine teenage boys of any stripe being curious about what their juice tastes like.

Why was everyone in the room unfazed by the idea of tasting milk, while some seemed less at ease with the idea of tasting semen? Is it because the former is perceived as food and the latter as reproductive material? Did these people never have eggs for breakfast?



Thursday  10.28.04

From the
Home & Garden section of a prominent east coast newspaper, this photo of homemade furniture in the bedroom of a California desert home: OSB furniture Someone admitting that they designed these lovely unfinished OSB furnishings themself reminds me of a visit I made to a co-worker's home once about 15 years ago. After pointing out his bedroom--which featured underwear lying around on the floor--he said "I decorated it myself."

Why show us this stuff (complete with the email address of the designer/manufacturer)? Is this a New York newspaper's way of making fun of what passes for creativity in Southern California? (I say a more likely explanation is that the designer of the furniture is a friend of the reporter who wrote the article.)



A telephone solicitor called this morning. After a few pleasantries:

Tommy:How did you get my number?
solicitor:I don't know.
Tommy:I can't talk with you then.




Wednesday  10.27.04

Okay. Ten days ago I wrote about the President's stand on gay rights (see below). Since, then Bush said in a television interview
I view the definition of marriage different from legal arrangements that enable people to have rights. And I strongly believe that marriage ought to be defined as between, a union between a man and a woman. Now, having said that, states ought to be able to have the right to pass … laws that enable people to you know, be able to have rights, like others.
I hasten to point out that--true to form--he didn't utter the g-word (or even "homosexual").

I wonder who he thinks he's fooling with this change of tone a week before Election Day. To use a line he liked to throw at his opponent in the debates: you can run from your record, but you can't hide.



Eclipse of the moon coming this evening--the last total eclipse visible from here for about three years. Please watch it for me (it'll probably be cloudy here).



Wednesday  10.20.04

The first storm of the season came through yesterday; snow level was about 9000 feet.



Monday  10.18.04

In the course of announcing my email address change, I got in touch with a few friends I hadn't heard from in a while. Several were interested to hear how I was doing; one friend asked
So, nobody to whom you might have to give half your worldy goods after some future disagreement?
Someone needs to tell him it's okay to end sentences or clauses with prepositions. But I like the question.



Sunday  10.17.04

William F. Buckley wrote
[...] Cheney and Bush diverge in their view of the gay-lesbian questions. Early in the campaign, Cheney said that he believed any gay should have the identical rights of non-gays. Bush travels in that direction, but balks at marriage, which he holds to be a social institution devised to unite man and woman.
Bush travels in that direction? Surely Mr. Buckley knows that
  • The proposed constitutional amendment supported by Bush reads "Marriage in the United States shall consist only of the union of a man and a woman. Neither this Constitution or the constitution of any State, nor state or federal law, shall be construed to require that marital status or the legal incidents thereof be conferred upon unmarried couples or groups." (emphasis mine; the wording works against the recognition of alternative arrangements like civil unions)
  • Bush's favorite justices on the Supreme Court are Scalia and Thomas, who dissented when the court struck down homosexual sodomy laws in Lawrence v. Texas.
  • When campaigning for Governor of Texas, Bush had promised to veto any attempt to repeal Texas' gay-only sodomy law, calling it "a symbolic gesture of traditional values". Note that such laws have effects beyond criminalizing sodomy; before Lawrence v. Texas, they were cited to support arguments for denying rights to gay people.
N.B. I don't just rant on these matters here. I also wrote directly to Mr. Buckley, and I wrote to David Brooks about the matters I brought up in Thursday's entry, below.



Thursday  10.14.04

I write more about politics here than I want to. I'd rather not write so much in reaction to what other people say or do. But I deem politics important enough, especially this season, to speak up even if I don't have something particularly original or creative to say.

So--
Not that long ago, the NY Times added David Brooks to their staff; the Times evidently likes having some right-wing columnists on hand for balance. OK, but could they have gotten someone who writes more convincingly? Yes, I'm biased, I often disagree with Brooks. But to illustrate why I think he doesn't do a good job, consider his Oct. 12, 2004 column, which talks about differences between Bush's approach to international relations and Kerry's. Brooks says that the candidates' approaches to foreign affairs parallel their domestic policies. Domestically, he says, conservatives promote freedom, self-sufficiency, and individualism; liberals on the other hand promote social justice, tolerance, and interdependence. Then Brooks says
[...] the argument we are having about international relations is the same argument we are having about domestic affairs, just on a larger scale. It's a conflict between two value systems. One is based on a presumption of a world in which individuals and nations should be self-reliant and free to develop their own capacities - forming voluntary associations when they want - without being overly coerced by national or global elites. The other is based on the presumption of a crowded world, which emphasizes that no individual or nation can go off and do as it pleases, but should work instead within governing institutions that establish norms and provide security.

[...] How do we conceive of an international order in the post-9/11 world? Bush, the conservative, conceives of a flexible, organic, spontaneous order. Kerry, the liberal, conceives of a more rationalist, planned and managed order.
Bush "conceives of a flexible, organic, spontaneous order"? Does Brooks forget who told the world "you're either with us or against us"?

The Oct. 12 column exemplifies what I find unconvincing about Brooks' writing. In defending politicians and policies that he likes, he loses his sense of perspective.



Wednesday  10.13.04

I said waaaaay back that I would get my own domain name. Better late than never. To make up for my tardiness, I didn't just get a domain name; I got two (see my home page for the other name). Woo woo.

Please update any bookmark(s). This is now tommyjournal.com .



Tuesday  10.12.04

In a discussion about "9/11 and Global Terrorism", Jacques Derrida said
... the United States was targeted, hit, or violated on its own soil for the first time in almost two centuries--since 1812 to be exact ...
I'm not a Derrida scholar; would someone who is care to hazard a guess as to what he meant, or whether he just forgot about Pearl Harbor? Thanks in advance. And man, I hope it's not that Pearl Harbor isn't soil. [Since writing this, I have been reminded that Hawaii was not a US state in the 1940s. I feel suitably embarrassed.]

Anyhow. News of Mr. Derrida's death spurred a bit of web-surfing here at Tommyjournal Central, which led your narrator to (among other things) a page on Mark Liberman's delightful Language Log site (now on the short list to your right).

One more thing. Jacques Derrida is reported to have died of pancreatic cancer. The German word for pancreas is Bauchspeicheldrüse ("belly spit gland"). Just thought you'd like to know.



Monday  10.11.04

Like many people, I didn't understand why Bush made a point of saying he wouldn't appoint a Supreme Court justice who supported slavery:
Another example would be the Dred Scott case, which is where judges, years ago, said that the Constitution allowed slavery because of personal property rights.
I now suspect those were code words. To understand what Bush was getting at, consider this passage from the court's opinion in Scott v. Sanford (1856):
The question is simply this: can a negro whose ancestors were imported into this country and sold as slaves become a member of the political community ... ? We think they are not, and that they are not included, and were not intended to be included, under the word "citizens" in the Constitution, and can therefore claim none of the rights and privileges which that instrument provides for and secures to citizens of the United States.
and this, from Roe v. Wade (1973):
The Constitution does not define "person" in so many words. ... But in nearly all these instances, the use of the word is such that it has application only post-natally. None indicates, with any assurance, that it has any possible pre-natal application. ... All this, ... persuades us that the word "person," as used in the Fourteenth Amendment, does not include the unborn.



Tuesday  10.05.04

I haven't written here in a while. No big deal; no one reads it anyway.

Another day, another veto. Where did your local newspaper put the story of the USA vetoing today's UN Security Council resolution on Israeli operations in the Gaza strip? (It was headline news in some media outside the USA.)

In case your paper buried the story and/or only mentioned it briefly, the resolution would have required "the immediate cessation of all military operations in the area of northern Gaza". Today's vote was

for   Algeria, Angola, Benin, Brazil, Chile, China, France, Pakistan, Philippines, Russia, Spain
abstain   Germany, Great Britain, Romania
veto   USA


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